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Throwing a destination bachelorette party? You are probably already being inundated with people asking you questions about what you are doing and when you are doing it. You can expect to get more and more questions as the party gets closer. While you can continue to let people blow up your phone with your questions, or you can plan out an itinerary for the bachelorette party and share it with your guests. Pre-planning the itinerary may make you feel like you are taking away from some of the spontaneity of the adventure. However, please trust us when we tell you that great advance planning is the number one secret to a fantastic destination party. It lets your guests know what to expect, not just in terms of activities, but also in terms of the costs that they might encounter and what they need to pack. So, read on for our ultimate guide to bachelorette party itineraries.
What is Bachelorette Party Itinerary?
Funny you should ask. Actually, we use itinerary in two ways throughout this easy how-to-guide. We use it to describe the plan for the party, but also to describe the document that outlines the plan for the party. So, if you see it used both ways, it is not your imagination; we are, indeed, using it two ways in this article. The first way we use itinerary is as a planned route or list of places to visit while traveling. This plan describes where you are going to go, the times you will be there, and sometimes how you will get to and from that destination. The second way we use itinerary is to describe the document that describes the first kind of itinerary. First, we are going to talk to you about how you put together the plan for the bachelorette party weekend. Then, we will discuss how you put it all down on paper. It seems a little complicated, but we promise it will all make sense as you keep reading!
Things to do Before You Plan Your Itinerary
While you have probably checked on what is available to do for the destination and date that you chose, there are some things you want to have done before you begin to plan your itinerary. You want to have planned where you are going, when you are going to be there, where you are staying, and how you are getting there. You want that stuff in place before you begin to plan your itinerary because you do not want to do all of the party planning only to find out that you cannot go that weekend, that flights are already full, or that you cannot get a place to stay. So, if you have not taken care of all of those steps, take a step backwards, handle them, then come back to plan your itinerary!
Book Your Restaurants
When you were picking out the destination for your bachelorette party, you undoubtedly came across a restaurant or two that you wanted to try. We know that people love the dining information that we have available on our destination bachelorette and bachelor party pages. Some of the most sought-after restaurants do not require reservations, but others either require or take reservations and some of the best restaurants can book up literally months in advance. If there are some must-visit restaurants in your plans, you want to go ahead and book them. You can do this even if you do not have all of your RSVPs in, because you can generally downsize a larger table to a smaller one as the party gets closer. On the other hand, it can be difficult, and sometimes downright impossible, to add extra seating for extra guests.
Many people think of dinner when they make reservations, however, you may need reservations for other meals, as well. Some popular lunch spots may need reservations, or, if they do not need reservations, they make take reservations for larger groups. In fact, they may even offer special large group rooms to ensure that your whole party is seated together. Breakfast reservations are rarely necessary, but the big exception to that general rule is if you are traveling to a theme park. If you want to do something fun like a character breakfast, you may need to reserve it as far ahead of time as possible. Finally, while lunch and breakfast may not require reservations, when you combine the two for a brunch, suddenly demand increases. This is especially true for super-popular brunch destinations or if you happen to be vacationing during a popular tourist time or near a holiday. If you have heard that a restaurant has a can’t-miss brunch, the chances are high that other tourists have heard it as well; call ahead to see if you can get reservations for your group.
Not sure exactly what your dining plans will be? Take this tip from us. For most places, there is no penalty for canceling a dining reservation, while it can be close to impossible to get a last-minute reservation. So, if you think you might want to eat at a reservations-required establishment, but are still firming up your plans, go ahead and make the reservation!
Plan the Events
If you have researched your events, then you know which ones need to be booked ahead of time. Unlike dinner reservations, there may be fees associated with pre-planning events. You may need to buy tickets or passes for them. It is impossible to name all of the types of events that you may need to reserve ahead of time, but if you are planning on any shows, sporting events, festivals, pool parties, spas, classes, or group outdoor activities, you want to book those ahead of time. In addition, keep in mind what time of year you are traveling to your destination and what demand for the activities will be. For example, if you are traveling to a ski resort during spring break or the winter holidays, you may need to buy your lift tickets in advance, to ensure you get space on the slopes. However, if you are traveling outside of one of those peak demand times, you may get to be a little more flexible about whether you make a reservation, buy tickets ahead of time, etc.
What to Include in the Itinerary
You might want to plan every single minute of a destination trip, but we want to warn you that if that is your plan, you are only going to end up frustrated with a stressed-out bride and unhappy guests. If your trip is extremely short, like a single night visit somewhere, then you might want to jam-pack the 24 hours with fun activities almost every minute. For trips that are any longer than that, it is a good idea to include a mix of structured activities, unstructured activities, and rest-time for your guests.
What do we mean by that? If, for example, you are traveling to Cozumel for the bachelorette party, you might set up an itinerary for one day that looks like this:
- 8:00am Breakfast in the hotel restaurant (Optional- if you decide to skip breakfast, call down by midnight the night before and they will have a bagged breakfast option available for you to take on the shuttle bus).
- 9:15- Gather in hotel lobby for shuttle bus to snorkeling boat.
- 9:30- Shuttle Bus departs hotel for snorkeling trip (buffet lunch at a resort and unlimited drinks included with snorkel trip)
- 4:00- Shuttle Bus returns to hotel
- 5:30- Cocktails at the poolside bar (optional)
- 8:00- Dinner reservations at Colores y Sabores. It is a 15-minute walk and approximately a 6 minute cab ride from the hotel.
- 10:00 pm- Bachelorette pub crawl (optional)
If you look at the sample itinerary, you can see that we made sure people had planned options available for all three meals, but still gave them flexibility, provided times where people could choose to socialize or nap, and made the evening’s entertainment optional because the day’s plan were pretty active.
Pick Your Bachelorette Party Itinerary
Once you have decided what you want to include in your itinerary, your next step is to find your perfect itinerary. There are lots of places where you can find customizable itineraries for your bachelorette party, but we think that the flexibility and customizability that you can find on Etsy is hard to beat! If you look through them, you are sure to find itineraries to match your bachelorette party them and that you can customize to include every detail you want to include. Of course, you will want to think about how you want to present your itineraries. Do you want to pack all of the trip’s activities into a single itinerary or present a different itinerary for each day of the week? If you have read some of our other destinations bachelorette party tips, then you already know that we love the idea of leaving the guests little goodie baskets or bags in their room to welcome them to the trip. Fill the goody bag with some bottled water, a couple of snacks, a pair of inexpensive sunglasses, some sunscreen, some hangover remedy or painkillers, and an itinerary or daily itineraries so that they can know what to expect.
One Night Itineraries
We have done a lot of talking about destination bachelorette party itineraries, but you might want to plan an itinerary for a basic one-night bachelorette party. After all, guests may want a heads-up about what to expect for a party. It can help them plan what kind of clothes and shoes to wear, whether they should snack ahead of time, and how much cash they should bring for the night.
This is a great example of what we are going to call a standard itinerary. Not only does it provide customizable space to describe the party’s activities, but it also provides enough space to include traditional invitation details, so you can make it both an invitation and an itinerary:
As you can see, the example on Etsy is broken down into different days, but, because it is so customizable, you could just as easily break that down into activities for a single day. In addition, with all of the room for customization, you can include information like addresses, what people need to bring, and any helpful tips you might want to include.
What do we mean by helpful tips? Pretend, for example, that after a bachelorette brunch, you planned one of those pedal bike pub crawls. With an easily-customizable invitation, you could include a website address for more information or simply include a disclaimer that tells the guest “this is a bike tour; wear bike-friendly shoes not heels or backless shoes.”
Destination Based Itineraries
If you start to look for itineraries for destination bachelorette parties, you will find that they fall into two broad categories: generic and destination-specific. We love the idea of a destination-specific itinerary, just because it helps set the mood of the party.
New Orleans is a popular destination for a bachelorette party and this New Orleans themed bachelorette captures the city perfectly. It is also easy to provide plenty of information in the itinerary. You can see how it provides plenty of space to provide details for a multi-day trip to the city:
Need help planning your bachelorette party to New Orleans? Check out this article.
Another popular destination is Las Vegas, and you can see how this itinerary creates that Vegas feel before you ever get to the city. With the iconic sign, limo, drinks, and cards it pulls together many of the elements you would expect to have in a Las Vegas bachelorette bash:
If you are headed to a popular destination, then the chances are great that you will be able to find a perfect destination itinerary for the bachelorette party. If you want to try to find one, then you can search on Etsy using the name of your destination plus “bachelorette party itinerary.” The great thing about Etsy’s system is that, even if they do not offer a specific itinerary for that destination, there is a good chance that they will have an itinerary that at least compliments your destination.
Need help planning your Las Vegas bachelorette party? Check out this article.
Theme Based Itineraries
While some people have itineraries based on destinations, other people want a destination that reflects the theme of the bachelorette party. We love those as options, especially when your activities also reflect the theme. For example, if you are heading to Cozumel for a mermaid bachelorette bash and you have arranged for an ocean mermaid photo shoot, then you are obviously going to want to have that theme in your itinerary. By the way, that is a golden idea for a mermaid loving bachelorette party:
Need help planning your Mermaid themed bachelorette party? Check out this article.
The fiesta theme is one that is super-popular, not just for destination bachelorette parties, but also for shorter one-night parties as well. We love this fiesta itinerary because you can use it for just about any bachelorette party, to let people know what they can expect to experience:
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Fill in the Itinerary
Once you have picked your itinerary, you need to fill in the details. The templates you see on Etsy do a great job of showing you the kind of information you want to include in an itinerary and many of them come with matching invitations, which makes the whole process super easy. If your itinerary is paired with an invitation, then you are going to have the name of who you are celebrating, the date or dates, the location, the hostess, and some contact information.
For a multi-day party, you are going to break your events down into days. You can list the events in order of when they will occur, or you can give specific times for the events to occur. How you choose to organize the itinerary is going to depend a lot on the plans that you have for the party. If they are time specific, make sure and include the times, and, if you group includes anyone who is habitually late (and almost all groups do), we suggest making sure and having times to meet and, if there is a time that a group will depart and stragglers will be left behind, making those times clear as well.
We think it is super-important to indicate which events are must-attend and which ones are more flexible. You want to assume that some of the guests are going to miss some of the things you have planned. Hangovers, hook-ups, or just people needing to recharge means that they might miss a thing or two. Missing drinks at the pool is very different than missing the big dinner, so give them a heads-up about which events have reservations and are required.
In addition to listing the when and the where of different events, it is very possible your party guests are going to have questions. Almost every itinerary is going to give you a space for additional information. You are going to want to include a website if you have it, your contact information, and maybe the contact information for the hotel.
Get Itinerary Printed
Once you have created the perfect itinerary, you are going to want to print them. You can print them at home, but they are not going to look as good as if you have them printed professionally. Once upon a time, professional printing services were extremely expensive, which might make DIY printing tempting. Today, you can get high-quality professional printing services for less than you would spend on high-quality paper and a new ink cartridge for your own printer. You can check out Printing 4 Less and Costco.
Itineraries are a great way to let your bachelorette party guests know what you have planned for them. They are also a way to help ensure that guests get where you want them to be at the right time, without you having to wrangle them. We also love that cute itineraries can make great memorabilia for bachelorettes and their guests.
How far in advance do you have a bachelorette? ›
So, What's the Sweet Spot? The best time to host your bachelorette or bachelor party is between one and four months before your wedding. It will serve as a fun milestone to meet on your way to the altar, as well as help you and your guests budget their time (and funds).Who plans the bachelorette party? ›
Communicate with your wedding party and the head of the team that will be putting this event together. A bachelorette party is usually planned by the maid of honor. The maid of honor will utilize the wedding team of brides maids that you put together to plan and coordinate the ultimate surprise.Does the bride give gifts at bachelorette party? ›
What do you get a bride for a bachelorette party? It's a tradition to give a bride a gift at her bachelorette party but it's not at all required. Unlike the wedding gift, this present is just for her, so go for something sentimental and/or fun.Do guests pay for bachelorette party? ›
Traditionally, the only person who doesn't pay for the bachelorette party is the bride. This especially rings true when the bash is an in-town party (consisting of a single night out) as opposed to a weekend away.How long is a typical bachelorette party? ›
WeddingWire conducted a 2021 study that found 75% of bachelorette parties last two or more days, and the average length is three days. With a longer event naturally comes higher costs, and if you're also flying then things can get even pricier.What is the maid of honor supposed to pay for? ›
Typically, the maid of honor pays for smaller-ticket items, like a bachelorette sash or tiara, decorations, and swag for the other party guests. If you, as the bride, don't want to pay for these smaller items, our advice is to give your friends space to take the reins.Does the maid of honor pay for bachelorette party? ›
At a bachelorette party, the maid or matron of honor (often the best friend of the bride-to-be), or the most financially responsible participant among the bridesmaids, will take the lead on budgets, costs and charges per person.How much do you spend on bachelorette party? ›
The average bachelorette party cost between $317 and $1,900 in 2021, depending on how long it lasted, according to a survey from the Knot. About 20% of attendees are spending around $1,000 or more.Who should be invited to a bachelorette party? ›
"Typically, the bachelorette party is reserved for your bridesmaids and maybe a few of your closest friends and female family members," Harrison says. "This can change depending on the type of celebration you want and the activities you end up choosing."Does the bride pay for hotel at bachelorette party? ›
The bride should not pay for any of her bills this night. Going away for the weekend poses a little more gray area. Each attendee should cover the cost of her own travel and accommodations—including the bride. The bridal party should split the cost of any favors or other gifts for the attendees.
Does the mother of the bride pay for the bridal shower? ›
Often, the maid of honor and her fellow bridesmaids throw the bridal shower and pay for it, and the mother of the bride contributes. With this model, the bridal party pays for the bridal shower for the most part and split the price, but the parents of the bride may contribute some part of the expenses.Does the bride pay for the bridesmaids dresses? ›
Do bridesmaids pay for their own dresses? It's a common question, and the answer is almost always yes. "Bridesmaids are typically expected to pay for their own dresses," says Napa-based wedding planner Lindsey Nickel, founder of Lovely Day Events.What does maid of honor do for bachelorette party? ›
Maid of honor duties include planning the bachelorette party, making sure the bridesmaids dresses are ordered in a timely fashion, serving as the point person on the wedding day, giving a speech at the reception, being a model wedding guest (RSVP-ing on time, reserving travel and hotel with the room block early) and so ...When should you send out bachelorette party invitations? ›
When to send bachelorette party invites. Send bachelorette party invitations three to four weeks in advance, or at least eight if guests will be traveling or celebrating for more than one night.Does the groom help plan The Bachelor party? ›
A bachelor party is traditionally planned by the groom's best man or his closest friends, but there's no rule against the groom planning his own bachelor party. Either way, make sure the planner communicates all important info to the groomsmen well in advance so they can make arrangements to be there.How many people is too many for a bachelorette party? ›
According a WeddingWire study, bachelorette parties have an average of 10 attendees, which is actually the same as bachelor parties. And while inviting too many guests can make coordinating more difficult, 25% of bachelorette parties go that route, inviting 15 or more attendees.What happens at a typical bachelorette party? ›
The bachelorette party gathers up the bride's absolute closest friends as well as the bridesmaids (source). The night is spent celebrating the bride and her last days as an unmarried woman. Having this special moment really creates a strong bond between the bride and her special ladies.How many people are at a bachelorette party? ›
The average bachelorette party has 10 people in attendance. This is typically the bridal party, with the addition of one to four close friends of the bride. The number of guests and who is invited might change depending on the size of your bridal party, and the activities and events of the bachelorette party.Is the bride supposed to pay for hair and makeup? ›
"In my experience, it's about 50/50 on who pays for hair and makeup, and it's mostly determined by the bride's total budget," she says. "For example, at destination weddings, I see the bride paying for beauty services more, since bridesmaids have already shelled out money for flights and hotels, which really add up."Does the MOH give the bride a gift? ›
Should the Maid of Honor give a gift to the bride? The maid of honor should definitely give a give to the bride. While it's always possible to get something off the registry, it's nice to choose something more unexpected and personal for the bride—think custom jewelry, a monogrammed bag, or a gift card to a spa.
Does the maid of honor walk first or last? ›
The Maid or Matron of Honor: The maid or matron of honor will walk alone after other members of the bridal party. The Flower Girl(s) and/or Ring Bearer(s): The children chosen will walk down the aisle one after the other. They can sit with their parents once they are done.Who walks down the aisle first? ›
1. Officiant. Your officiant is generally the first person to walk toward the altar, signifying the ceremony is about to commence.Does the maid of honor wear the same dress as the bridesmaids? ›
A bridal party may contain several bridesmaids, but the maid of honour title goes to the main bridesmaid, usually the bride's sister or closest friend. In other words, she will be the right-hand woman of the bride on the wedding day. Generally, a maid of honour is dressed the same as a bridesmaid.Does the maid of honor wear a different dress? ›
Usually she is dressed the same as the bridesmaids, although some brides will reflect her status with a different colour, piece of jewellery or slightly different dress design. Note that if she is married, the correct term is matron of honour. Here is a more detailed look at a Maid of Honour's duties.Who pays for the bride's dress? ›
The bride's side of the family traditionally pays for the bride's wedding dress and the bridesmaids' dresses. Increasingly, however, bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses.How can I save money for a bachelorette party? ›
- Stay in town. While a getaway may be the quintessential bachelor or bachelorette party dream, skipping out on travel may be a more appropriate idea, especially if many attendees are local. ...
- Do your shopping online. ...
- Use cash-back credit cards. ...
- Redeem travel rewards.
When to send bachelorette party invites. Send bachelorette party invitations three to four weeks in advance, or at least eight if guests will be traveling or celebrating for more than one night.When should the bridal shower and bachelorette party be? ›
The bridal shower typically happens between 2 weeks and 2 months before the wedding day. Bachelorette parties are normally planned to take place 2 months and 6 months before the wedding day.Who pays for the bridal shower? ›
So who plans the bridal shower? Who pays? Today it's the maid of honor and bridal party or the bride or groom's mother who throws the bridal shower. Typically, whoever throws the event is the one must cover the costs.What happens at a bachelorette party? ›
The bachelorette party gathers up the bride's absolute closest friends as well as the bridesmaids (source). The night is spent celebrating the bride and her last days as an unmarried woman. Having this special moment really creates a strong bond between the bride and her special ladies.
How many people do you invite to a bachelorette party? ›
The average bachelorette party has 10 people in attendance. This is typically the bridal party, with the addition of one to four close friends of the bride. The number of guests and who is invited might change depending on the size of your bridal party, and the activities and events of the bachelorette party.Do you tell the bride about the bachelorette party? ›
Though it is generally considered improper for the bride to throw her own bachelorette party, she should still have a say in the activities. If she's a reserved homebody, a wild bachelorette-party weekend in Las Vegas, Miami, or New York is unlikely to be how she wants to celebrate.How long should you give people to RSVP to a bachelorette party? ›
4. For what he calls "the big mailing" (that of formal wedding invitations), Hirschfeld says that couples should send out the invites two to four months before the wedding. Invites for rehearsal dinners, wedding brunches, and bachelorette or bachelor parties can go out one to two months before the events take place.Whats a Jack and Jill? ›
Historically, a Jack and Jill was a celebration before the wedding in order to raise money for the couple. An example of this would be holding a party and charging invited guests an admissions fee of ~$5, which would go toward the engaged couple. Another example would be charging for drinks, or even holding a raffle.Who plans the bridal shower and bachelorette party? ›
One of the most important maid of honor duties is leading the charge to plan the bridal shower, from choosing a venue to sending out bridal shower invitations, planning games to choosing favors. Oh, and the MOH is in charge of putting together the bachelorette party, as well!What are maid of honor duties? ›
The maid of honor is in charge of the bachelorette party and bridal shower as well as leading the rest of the bridesmaids throughout the planning process and on the day of the wedding. A bride will typically appoint a sister, female relative, or best friend as the maid of honor.Does maid of honor pay for bachelorette party? ›
Who Pays for the Bachelorette Party Traditionally? Typically, the maid of honor and bridesmaids split the cost of the bachelorette party. The bride's expenses (including her drinks, meals, and transportation) are split evenly between the bridal party.What does the mother of the bride pay for? ›
Traditionally speaking, though, the bride's family pays for the bulk of the wedding—venue, reception, photographer, flowers, etc. As such, the mother of the bride is typically more 'in charge' of these things (along with the bride, of course) than the mother of the groom is.Is it rude to ask bridesmaids to pay for their dress? ›
Generally speaking, bridesmaids are expected to pay for their own dresses and accessories as well as potentially hair and makeup appointments and transportation to the wedding. According to Gottsman, bridesmaids should be prepared to cover the costs for these expenses once they accept the offer.